#and i think that should be okay
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Genuinely I think a lot of platitudes about passing and happiness post-transition are based on survivorship bias. We hold up the transition timelines of the people that managed to meet the cisgender baseline, photoshopped selfies of people who were already more than pretty enough, and tell people that 'hrt is magic' and a lot of people end up not passing, not meeting the bar for conventional attractiveness, and blaming themselves. The people that make it out are very much extraordinary examples, who probably should be celebrated and feel good about their progress, but aren't 100% of transitions.
I don't want people to think that they're doomed or it isn't possible, because it is. But it isn't universal. Some people aren't going to pass. Some people aren't going to be bombshells. And there has to be a way to reckon with that other than telling them to get ffs, try harder, and wait for hrt to work its magic. There has to be a way to make it feel okay for those people.
#i very much feel like one such person and ive been thinking through my negative affects today#hil malatino has a book about trans feelings that is quite good that endorses negative affect and the ways they are essential but get ignore#and thats been helping quite a bit#i just dont pass#and i think that should be okay#there should be something to be done about this other than 'simply pass better' or 'just start feeling good.'#transgender#trans women#transmisogyny#passing discourse
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Idk I feel like "Men are responsible for their own actions, women aren't to blame for men being misogynistic" and "You do not have to tolerate bigotry from others, call them out on that shit" and "People may be less likely to become radicalized if they receive kindness and compassion" don't have to contradict each other
#is misogyny okay? absolutely not. is misogyny the fault of women and/or feminism? also absolutely not#should we generally try to be kind to each other? yeah#shockingly enough i think multiple things can be true at the same time
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typical tavern scene
#dimension 20#fantasy high#fhjy#fabian seacaster#riz gukgak#adaine abernant#kristen applebees#figueroth faeth#gorgug thistlespring#got my version of this in lol. I feel like this is mandatory if u draw fh art#trying to remember whats on the menu at a typical swensen's. its been years since I last was at one#tho I am so absolutely unfamiliar with like elmville level of town scenery. just immediately drew from my own experience lmao#I used to think malls are the same everywhere.... but then I hear from my US friends and. wow they sure are not#mm. good day to reminisce a little bit. but I am now sleepy#not a lot to say abt this I think most of this is pretty straightforward. I did use this to test out some overlays in SAI2#that I never really touched. the talisman on fig's guitar case takes from the house protection talisman you'd put on the front door#and also I think kristen slipping while fully sat down is very funny and special. she means so much to me#okay. alright. I should really go to sleep. and tomorrow I should take my dang walk... see the sun#have a good night lads! enjoy ice cream
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Tommy basically said "the DSMP was good because it was, and still is, loved" and that basically sums up my feelings on the matter too.
#sure you can talk about the controversies about former members#and how the types of people involved in the writing shaped the narrative in ways that are increasingly troubling to look at#but it was also a project that was and still is loved by many of the (to our knowledge) better people involved#and it inspired so many artists and writers and musicians#people made friends through it#it helped people get through the worst parts of lockdown#my opinion of the dsmp for a while now has been pretty bitter. even when i wanted to remember it fondly it was tainted#and i dont think the worst aspects of the story or the ccs should be ignored#but its also so nice to have the opinion of 'yeah. it was good'#despite everything else there was something worthwhile in the dsmp#dsmp#tommyinnit#okay thats enough dsmp posting in 2024 lmao
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saw this quote off a v cute ushiten comic first haha check it out
i just drew them over a screenshot of hitsugibune from the back 'cuz i was lazy lol soz
#mishanks#akataka#dracule mihawk#shanks#akagami no shanks#red haired shanks#comic#op comic#one piece#one piece fanart#op fanart#young mishanks#i like thinking abt when (and how) mihawk acquired his hat lol#i read a fic once that said it was after shanks couldnt stop laughing at him for getting his face incredibly sunburned#i think that's cute. it's not why i had them both cover their faces w their hats but i think mb it should be.#also looking at this screenshot i am now realizing that when mihawk sits up straight that's three crosses lined up in a row#ALSO REALIZING I FORGOT KOGATANA OMG pretend it's there okay pls for me
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How helpy tested out the FNAF pizza sim attractions
#myart#chloesimagination#comic#fnaf#five nights at freddy's#micheal afton#helpy#fnaf pizzeria simulator#pizza sim#fnaf fanart#Helpy found dead in hurricane Utah#I THINK about this pizza sim mini game way too often#like Michael and Helpy were testing out these attractions#so thinking of Michael tossing his dear baby boy#and missing the target is so 💀#Helpy is okay! Michael is just a dramatic parent due to trauma#Michael really should of been cheap with his purchases though BAHA#Helpy is just Michael’s lil guy he doesn’t want to hurt them 💜
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Hear me out:
I think Zelda should have kept a couple of dragon traits. Just a few.
#Zelda#Zelink#totk#tears of the kingdom#totk spoilers#tears of the kingdom spoilers#botw#newtsdoodles#I just think Zelda should get some lil fangs okay#she deserves to start biting people at this point lmao#link she bites with love of course#also like. maybe when she gets mad she can grow some antlers and start glowing a bit.#maybe some claws.#digging my own grave in the wip pile here…
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...Turns out gay sex actually was the solution.
(This is basically a redraw, come read the real deal over at Tiger Tiger)
#tiger tiger#jamis arlesi#arno#I like to think Arno meant that as an inside thought but it came out as an outside thought. He's rolling with it though.#He did cause a Catastrophic Yaoi event though.#Jamis my beloved. You have the heart of a maiden. The body of an Ox. The brain of a loyal dog.#This is a guy who's okay being attracted to another man but *NOT* aware he's in love or that he's bisexual.#We love him for this. My god. This man is crafted so perfectly. I need you all to at least give Tigers a chance for *him*.#I'm tricking you a little bit because you will actually also fall for Ludo and Luck and Remy and Honeyfoot and-#okay you get the point. There are so many amazing characters in this comic.#I just.. my joke comic of 'gay sex is the solution' feels so ominous now knowing a few weeks later that was going to be canon.#I feel like a jester and a prophet. I don't know if I should tell anymore jokes in fear of what I may predict.#I am putting my hands together for Ludo to get a good smooch in with [redacted] in dragon form.#Also predicting something very spooky is going to go down with the diving bell. We shall see!
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reading and watching “classic” books and films is such an interesting experience because, before you get into them, when you only know them by name and maybe the vaguest plot outline, they’re intimidating and stuffy and up on a pedestal, but then you finally take the leap and check them out and realize that almost every story that’s achieved such a legendary level of popularity did so because something in its emotional core reached out and grabbed a lot of people by the throat and you are NOT immune.
#not that anyone but me probably needs to hear this but…#it’s OKAY to have Big Feelings about popular things#they’re popular for a reason - it makes sense to have a big reaction#but yeah - i should really know by now but i’m STILL floored every time i read or watch a classic and it Gets Me#like. this story has been Getting people for decades or centuries or MILLENNIA and yet STILL i’m surprised#‘i didn’t think the story would Get me’ says man about story that’s Gotten everyone who’s ever heard it
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Let the Prowlapocalypse begin or something ahahah
#maccadam#transformers#prowl#tfe#tf earthspark#transformers earthspark#tfe prowl#should I tag these as s3 spoilers…#probably not#Prowl was in the trailer. And I’m avoiding any plot related information#should be okay I think
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you guys should all watch joel’s new episode i laughed so hard during the podcast and fight club bits
#“we should do 2v2” “okay everyone pick a number between 1 and 7” and WHY did pearl say “2” immediately like she has a favourite number#??? no one in this group is normal i fear. also i think murder fills gem with joy and whimsy#cubfan135#cubfan#smallishbeans#joel smallishbeans#geminitay#pearlescentmoon#hermitcraft#hermitblr#hermitcraft smp#hermitcraft season 10#hermitcraft s10#hc s10#hc10#sliming it
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was it casual when i sat in your lap in public? was it casual when i said "recently my heart is crying because you're leaving"? was it casual when we decided how your last name would fit with mine? ("yuki tsunoda-gasly" / "no tsunoda, only gasly" / "yuki gasly?") was it casual when we sang adele's "someone like you" together at your going away party? was it casual when i knew it was you just by touching your ass? was it casual when i knew it was you by smell alone? was it casual when "will you miss me?" / "for 2-3 minutes maybe" / "i'll take that. even if it's just 2-3 minutes, i'll take that"? was it casual when that bus was completely empty and we still sat right next to each other, all the way in the back? was it casual when i picked you up multiple times so you could dunk a basketball? was it casual when i begged to come over to your house multiple time and then you finally let me and we cooked fried rice together? was it casual when we played christmas twister together and i said "your big eggplant is touching my ass"? was it casual when we were pressed up against each other on a scooter going two miles per hour? was it casual when-
#edit: tinytauris fact checked my post and they sang 'hello' not someone like you & it was 'your big monster' not eggplant#everyday i think about the fact that yukierre should've been what lestappen is now#i should be able to go on the yukierre tag on ao3 and it should say 'showing 1-20 of 6745'#they were genuinely so fuckingg weird about each otherrrrrr#im being so serious when i say that if they ever came out as gay/bi/whatever i really wouldnt be surprised#literally just 'okay?? fork spotted in kitchen cmon now' moment#anyway i think about that moment on the bus soooo often#will you miss me? / maybe for 2-3 minutes / ill take that then. even if it's just for 2-3 minutes ill take that#hwat the FUCK#i was going 'gay gay homosexual' everytime i saw them together#yukierre#yuki tsunoda#pierre gasly#also im like 90% sure that everyting i worte down actually happened but if i wrote smth down that didnt happen#and my yukierre infested brain just conjured up please let me know#also ive had this is in my drafts foreverrrr (re: since july) so if this has already been done im so sorry#i always feel like such a loser making posts about driver relationships lol#like 'oh look at that weirdo that got too invested in people she doesn't even know'#whatever im getting to introspective now#1k
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FORGETTABLE-AU (Page 44-47)
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[BEGINNING] [PREVIOUS] [CONTINUE]
#I don't think there's emergency exits on the true lab in the game but I'm gonna pretend there are because THERE SHOULD BE#Or maybe there ARE emergency exits in the true lab and Flowey blocked them or something so we HAD to use the elevator#I like to think there are emergency stairs!#but they're super old and not taken care of#Also#the elevator's energy and the energy from the lab are separated and that's not something I made up#that's actually a thing in the game I noticed??#apparently the elevator are magnetic?? something like that I can't remember rn#okay enough rambling time for the tags#undertale#forgettable-au#forgettable-au-comic#papyrus is gaster#undertale au#gaster#undertale comic#alphys
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no more fan-ta-sizing about it! everything's already changed~
#dimension 20#fantasy high junior year#fhjy#figueroth faeth#riz gukgak#adaine abernant#fabian seacaster#gorgug thistlespring#kristen applebees#fh class quangle#my! class swap thing! I guess this is like the poster for it now#got overinvested and finished it properly instead of winging it lol#in closeup order: cleric!gorgug; bard!riz; rogue!fabian; sorcerer!kristen; barbarian!fig; artificer!adaine#this one does have the harpoon gun I'd give fabian during sophomore year but literally only figured out for this piece lol#I like how it looks tho Im glad I hashed it out#thinking abt power armor adaine a lot tbh... she has the transhumanist audacity. she's villain-adjacent enough#to attempt unspeakable acts of body improvement#(its funny bc to wear a rig like that would Also demand a certain level of physical strength from you)#also yeah this is the thing with riz holding a megaphone that got me considering#its fun! it fits the aesthetics! maybe it'd grant him range for bardics#maybe he gets to keep that Im just not sure how he'd carry it around lol#fig gets to have all of her makeup... I like almost never remember to draw it usually kdsjfhdjk listen. I just forgor#I always forget makeup is real#also dont ask me what's in kristen's thermos it Is usually tea but you truly never know#sometimes its soup. it can be lighter fluid. soap perhaps. hot chocolate#also if u come knocking on my door abt kristen's somatic in this piece: I wont be home#she gets to be gross especially bc shes funny and 17yo and gay. we give it to her#okay I. whoo I should lay down. finally I can move on to other things#cheers! wahoo. yahha perhaps
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soooo thinking about pro!hero shouto being waylaid in the street by a tiny cute girl scrabbling for his autograph, and he's still a bit bewildered by this whole fame thing but he tries his best -- so he bends down to ask her what he'd like signed, only to hear your voice, to look up and see you, just about the prettiest creature he'd ever laid eyes on, running up to the little girl and scooping her up into your arms before bowing and saying --
"i'm so sorry! she just ran off -- you can't do that, mia-chan! your mama will kill me of something happens to you!" before turning back to him with a pleading sort of smile and just, "sorry again -- she's my cousin's daughter -- i promise she doesn't mean to bother -- she's just such a huge fan --"
but he can't help noticing the glow in your cheeks and can't stop himself from wondering if you're a fan too. and what he'd do if you said yes.
"not a bother," he smiles, "it's just part of the job." he looks at the girl now, extending a hand, "thanks for being my fan -- what would you like signed?"
"no really -- you don't have to --" you say, but shouto reaches for a pen all the same.
"no, it's okay. i want to."
so he signs the little girl's handkerchief, and feels his chest go warm at the way she presses it to her chest, grinning wide enough to split the sky. it's only then that she looks back at him with curious, wide eyes and asks --
"aren't you going to sign anything for big sister? she's your big fan too!"
"mia!" you go just about the most darling shade of red, looking anywhere but at shouto; he clears his throat, licking his lips.
"i... i don't mind... if you'd like something --"
"no, please -- we've bothered you enough."
"can she have your number?" mia asks, now positively devious as she looks between him and you, "it was her new years wish when we did our first temple visit --"
"mia! that's enough -- i'm sorry, we'll just go --"
"here." he scribbles down his number and presses it into your hand with a bright blush of his own. and now he's the one who can't look at you, "you don't have to do anything with it -- if you don't want to. but if you do..."
"i -- i do! i just --" you glance back down at mia, grinning smugly in your arms.
"then... you can call me later. or text. whichever." he takes a few steps back, swallowing passed the heartbeat now thundering in the back of his throat.
"yeah. sure -- i will! i mean -- only if you don't mind."
"i don't. really."
"okay."
"okay then. see you."
"yeah... see you... soon."
"yeah. soon."
#🌧 raindrops#bnha#mha#bnha imagines#mha imagines#x reader#bnha x reader#mha x reader#todoroki x reader#todoroki shouto#todoroki shouto x you#bnha todoroki#todoroki shouto fluff#todoroki x you#bnha fluff#mha fluff#uHMMMM HAHAHAHAH help me. HELP ME. this is tru brainrot okay like i was walking to coffee this morning and couldn't stop thinking about thI#SHOULD I FIC IT#fuCK me up man#h e l p p pp p p
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idk id be weird abt touching someone for the first time in a millennia too
#i think sm should be weird i think he should be touchstarved i think he should crave biting into pv like a dog-#coughs anyways#there IS something to be said about being isolated only to suddenly have someone so close that you can finally reach them#i think sm would be valid in being weird abt it okay#cookie run#crk fanart#pure vanilla cookie#shadow milk cookie#pureshadow#shadowvanilla#my drawbs
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